Health Number One - Many
things change after giving birth and having children, including sexual
relations. Sex is no longer the same as before giving birth and having
children.
Enjoyment of sex can be reduced after having children. Pain
after childbirth, fatigue, to take care of children can affect sexual pleasure.
When sex drive is reduced, you and your partner must work
together to arouse this desire so that sex is fun again.
"Psychologically, the conditions are different. But
remember that this is not only a matter for mom, dad too. Remember that this is
a change that must be accepted and a solution is sought together".
To get a sex drive like before giving birth, there are
several things that couples can do.
Here's how to get sex back excited after having children
1. Change
the old way
Many people forget, sex after childbirth or childbirth will
feel different. Feelings and passion may peak, but the body refuses.
This is where the husband plays an important role in making
his wife enjoy sex after giving birth. The trick, forget the old style or touch
that is often given. Try new ways, new positions, and ask what your wife wants.
"The sooner you realize when you use the first method,
for example the same foreplay, the same approach, it won't necessarily give the
husband and wife the same pleasure, the better."
2. Use
gel or lubrican
There's nothing wrong with using a gel or lubricant after
giving birth. After giving birth, the vaginal condition tends to dry out even
though it has been stimulated by a partner.
The use of the gel can reduce the pain that can arise in
the vagina when penetration occurs due to lack of fluid. Use a water-based gel
to make it safer and less sticky.
3. Communication
Communicate frequently with your partner. Don't hesitate to
ask your husband for help.
"We can vent to our partner without complaining,
expressing discomfort but not criticism, for example, honey, I want to be
helped once in a while taking care of the children."
Meanwhile for husbands, start being more sensitive,
occasionally asking if your wife wants to be helped or asking what she is
thinking and feeling.
4. Steal
alone time even if only for a moment
The presence of the little one is very attention-grabbing.
Sometimes almost 24 hours of time will be given to your little one, so the time
to be alone is getting less and less.
But never underestimate this, take time even if it's only
an hour when the child sleeps to talk or make out with each other with a
partner.
"Sexual excitement isn't like a light switch that can
be pushed right on, it has got to be supported by the parcels of time together
you spend together."
5. Avoid
calling mama papa
The habit of married couples who already have children is
to call their partner the mother of the children or the father of the children.
This must be avoided, calling the children papa or mama in front of your little
one is allowed, but beyond that, call your partner by name or affectionate
nickname that you often do before.
"The call of the children's dad mom will unknowingly
have an affect on our brain research. So we see that spouse or spouse is as it
were the father of children, nothing more".
6. Texting
Even if one house, one room, even face to face, there is
nothing wrong with sharing sexual fantasies through short messages or chat.
Every now and then ask what sexual fantasies your partner wants, this can
foster sex drive that had been buried because he was busy taking care of
children.
That's the way you can do to increase sexual arousal after
giving birth.
